Working on being the best possible version of yourself is inherently worthwhile, but it doesn’t hurt that it’s likely to make you irresistible to members of the opposite sex, too. Whether it’s having immaculate style, perfect pecs or witty banter, there are certain types of guys that women find impossibly charming, and who seem to have effortless luck with the ladies. Here are the top 10 types of guys women can’t resist:
Humor is a social lubricant and an aphrodisiac, and it’s pretty much universally attractive, but funny men are particularly desirable in a culture that’s still getting used to the idea of funny women (come on!). Genuinely funny guys have the ability to put people at ease and soothe social tensions; they’re a joy to be around and make attractive potential romantic partners.
Humor is something people are often blessed with from birth (or from the families they grow up in), but it is possible to work on being funnier, too. Don’t force it, though, and don’t be too confrontational with your humor: being “shocking” or “edgy” for the sake of it is not the same as being genuinely funny, and offensive jokes are pretty passé these days.
If you’ve always had the ability to make people around you giggle, that’s a precious gift that you should continue to cultivate, and it will serve you well in your endeavors with women.
2. Socially Conscious Guys
Men who care about the world around them are irresistible to plenty of women. Compassion, motivation and selflessness are attractive qualities in anyone, but when they come together in a social justice-savvy man, women will notice and be drawn to him; partly because these are qualities that are traditionally associated less with men than women.
It doesn’t really matter whether the cause you care about is racial justice,feminism or environmental causes, women will notice that you are passionate about something beyond yourself, and that’s appealing; particularly to women who also have a social conscience. Obviously, the main focus should be helping out marginalized people and communities, and your intentions need to be genuine, but female attention isn’t a bad side effect!
3. Smart Guys
It’s always a plus to be able to learn things from the people you’re dating, and intellect is key to keeping a woman engaged and stimulated. Smart guys have a certain gravitas that draws women into their orbits, and women know they won’t be bored around a smart guy — unless, of course, he’s insufferably condescending and stuffy about his smarts.
Like humor, intelligence can be worked on: Pick up a book or two if you feel you’re lacking in this area, and listen to people from different walks of life with an open mind, as intelligence is often as much about broadening your perspective and having intellectual curiosity as it is about how many facts you have stored in your brain. (Make sure that you combine intelligence with humility to avoid coming off as pretentious, though.)
4. Nice Guys
The saying is that nice guys finish last, but, to be honest, that’s just something disgruntled (and not very nice) men tell themselves. The opposite is true: Women love nice guys, it’s just that “nice” doesn’t mean “cloying, insipid, and with no interests of one’s own.”
Genuinely thoughtful, caring and selfless men are widely adored and have no trouble meeting (and keeping) women, so bear this in mind if mean-spirited “pickup artist” theory, focused on “negging” and bringing down women’s self-esteem appeals to you. Try being genuinely kind instead: It’s a much better long-term strategy, and, frankly, it just feels better.
5. Talented Guys
It’s hard to resist someone who has a killer talent, whether that’s music, drawing, skating, or, really, anything done to a high level of expertise. Certain talents attract more social cachet than others — men who are brilliant dancers are probably luckier in love than men who are fantastic at juggling, say — but being focused and honing your craft, whatever it is, will attract potential suitors to you, simply because that passion and drive is attractive.
Everyone has things they’re good at; keeping up on your hobbies has a few benefits: It’s inherently rewarding for you, but it might also spark romantic interest in nearby suitors.
6. Generous Guys
Generosity is an appealing quality in anyone, but there’s definitely a traditional, gendered appeal to a man who can provide for “his woman” (that is, financially). These kinds of ideas are increasingly outdated and more than a little sexist, but there’s a nugget of truth worth saving in the traditional model: Generosity is appealing, and it doesn’t have to be tied to traditional gender roles, or even to money.
You can be generous in other ways if you’re not exactly rolling in cash: with your time, with compliments, or with the positivity and good energy you bring to situations. Being free with the things you have in abundance — whether that’s money, time, a helping hand, whatever — will make you a great person to be around full stop, and it certainly won’t hurt your romantic prospects, either.
7. Sensitive Guys
Sensitive guys get a bit of a bad rap in the mainstream media. They’re often dismissed as being too feminine, soft or “gay” (like that’s a bad thing in itself), but in reality, women go nuts for men with a sensitive side, and the dismissal of sensitive men is, frankly, hyper-masculine nonsense — think of how attractive many women find Drake, Adrian Brody and Justin Bieber, for example.
Sensitivity, again, is something you can cultivate, and it boils down to the little things, like listening and remembering things your girlfriend tells you, and then proving it in small ways later. It also involves being in touch with your feelings and those of other people, and communicating honestly and openly. Most of the world’s best music, writing and acting comes from a place of sensitivity, and, generally speaking, no one could honestly claim that musicians, writers and actors aren’t successful with women. Give sensitivity a go!
8. Stylish Guys
Men with an impeccable sense of style and personal grooming rarely do badly with women. Being decked out in designer gear at all times isn’t necessary, but it is important to take care of your appearance, scent and personal grooming, and men who put in a touch more effort than most are usually rewarded with a bit more female attention.
It’s not simply a superficial thing, either: Putting effort into your personal style gives women a glimpse into your personality, level of attention to detail, and personal pride. So if your daily go-to is unwashed sweatpants, it might be worth reconsidering your approach here and investing in a good wardrobe, signature scent and grooming routine.
9. Hot Guys
Speaking of the superficial, we won’t beat around the bush with this one: women, on the whole, like good looking men. Surprise! We live in a looks-obsessed time and culture, and there’s no getting around the fact that men who are genetically blessed will struggle far less than the rest when it comes to women.
Men with washboard abs and defined jawlines will attract the attention of the opposite sex, there’s no doubt about that. Fortunately, though, for more humble looking men, it’s rarely the be all and end all for women, and the old cliché about personality mattering most definitely rings true. Still, if you have been told you have gorgeous eyes or sexy legs, those are worthwhile things to have in your arsenal of attractive qualities, too.
10. Guys Like You
I know what you’re thinking: “Guys like me? Pffft. That’s a wishy-washy, feel-good way to end a list of types of guys women can’t resist. Women are plenty able to resist me.” Fair point, but bear with me. The simple truth is that women aren’t a monolith, and the type of guys that some women are instantaneously attracted to won’t raise another woman’s pulse whatsoever. Have you ever heard a group of women sitting around and debating whether Drake is attractive? Some of them want him to immediately impregnate them, and others can’t fathom letting him touch them. That’s exactly the point: There’s so much room for subjectivity and personal preference here.
There are clusters of qualities that are widely attractive, like the ones I’ve detailed above. But no matter who you are, you have some combination of qualities that will be irresistible to at least a few of the three and a half billion or so women on earth. That’s not feel-good nonsense, it’s just hard facts.
So, whatever it is that’s good about you — your sense of style, your wit, your in-depth knowledge of bee colonies or your ability to bench press a small car — someone will be delighted by that, and she just might be the woman of your dreams. A lot of relationship advice exhorts you to simply “be yourself”, and that’s partly true, but it’s important not to rest on your laurels; instead, you want to be the best possible version of yourself. Hone your talents, brush up on your sensitivity, brush your hair, and bask in the adoring attention of women everywhere — or, at least, one somewhere!